Baby Fever

Yes, I will be the first to say it; I have a small case of baby fever. I have a few friends who have kids, a couple who are pregnant for the second or more time and a part of me can't help but let myself feel how nice it would be to start a family of my own. Hubby is for sure old enough (36) and I am mature enough and love children enough that I really do want to have them. Now before anyone feels the need to smack me (cough: dad) let me say that I have an even bigger case of common sense. I know how important it is to finish my education so while I may have a small case a baby fever it will remain just that; something to think about, not to be acted upon.

The choice to have a baby is a very personal one. I try my best to be happy for my friends who have children no matter what their age or circumstance but the truth remains that I am a true advocate for planned pregnancy and finishing your education. If people have other plans that is their business but the truth remains that an education is invaluble in the world today and it is foolish for someone to deny themselves one by having children too young. You can make an argument for going back to school but the statistics remain that the majority of mothers do not finish an education interupted by childbirth be it highschool or college. (To be fair planned pregnancies in late college or graduate school cause a lower drop out rate because of a higher chance of a good support system for the mother.)

It is a risk that should not be taken lightly. A good education means a better life for you and your future children. Their are few jobs today that do not require some sort of higher education. Additionally, there are few families who can survive on a single income so chances are both mom and dad will need to have a job. Even if mom chooses to stay at home while the children are young she may want the freedom to be out of the house once the children are all in school full time. A college education opens more doors and makes it more likely for someone to find a job they enjoy instead of one that simply pays the bills. People who are happier at thier jobs are happier at home, it is a simple truth.

The other thing that gets to me is that preventing pregnancy is so easy. Yes, for guys the only option is still the condom but for women there are a lot of options including the pill, patch, depo shot, vaginal ring, mirena implant and the list goes on. Each has its own side effects and ease of use. If someone is dedicated to preventing pregnancy, with the help of a health care provider they can find one that works for them. Insurance is still a problem for some (luckily the new bill is going to change that!!!) but in most places there are free or reduced price clinics; you just have to take the time to find them. Nothing is 100% effective, but when used properly most methods have 99% or higher effective rates. Much higher than no protection at all.

I don't mean to preach or stand on a soap box but sexual health is very important and the resources are there. I worked really hard to get where I am and as much as I want a family, I want to finish my education more so I never regret it. I hope other girls will take the time to consider the same thing. There is plenty of time to have babies but the time to finish your education is while you are young and only have yourself and maybe a boyfriend/husband to support. Just think about it. In the end it is your decision, but make it wisely.